Ukrainian Surrogacy: A Complete Profile of Your Surrogate Mother. FAQs

23.04.2021

One of the first and most important questions couples considering surrogacy ask is “Who will carry the baby?”
It’s only appropriate to want to know just about everything about a surrogate mother: the age, the personality, her health indicators and behaviors, and so on.

But one question leads to many. We prepared the most frequently asked questions from future parents.

What is the portrait of the woman who wants to be a surrogate mother?

For sure it is always a very special person who is willing to become a surrogate mother.
Usually, that is a young lady in her early 20s up to 30 years. In some rare cases she can be 35.
These would be women who have already founded their families and have one, two, or even three children.
Emotionally, they are often very compassionate and have a strong urge to assist others in starting a family.

But what is also important to realize that she needs to love and care about a child, but important to realize that after they give a child to parents without attachments.

Of course important to know that the surrogacy program is a paid service with compensation for a woman. But often ladies in a program need to leave their jobs in order to carry about a child as a primary job.

The woman is facing as well some limitations during this period of her life, so the compensation is fair. But above that, a surrogate mother is a special person to do that.

How to choose surrogate mothers? What kind of evaluations do candidates undergo?

Along with physiological, a psychological evaluation is happening as well. It is one of the first steps, that the candidate will go through.
In addition, she will have to present a record that she is not on any psychological watch list.

But interviews for the psychological condition of the surrogate are going through all the programs as well. And the surrogate is having support immediately.

Surrogate mothers have 24/7 access for the head of the department and other team members when it is needed even for psychological support.

Is there a long waiting list for the surrogate program?

ADONIS doesn’t really have a waiting period from our experience. We have a large number of candidates, and the most wait period is usually 2-3 weeks. And this waiting is related to the candidate’s need to go through an examination process because we are conducting a thorough review.

If we provide you with a candidate, it means she is already completely evaluated and in her perfect health.

We have a large number of candidates and select only the best of bests.

We schedule the selection of surrogate mother accordingly with other processes. Because all biological material and documents must be ready when we give you a specific candidate.

Candidates with C-section vs. non-C-section. And how does it affect the candidate’s quality?

These questions coming up quite often during the process of selection for most of the parents. And there is a trend that there are more candidates with C-section than without now. More women are getting C-sections not only Ukraine but also worldwide. C-section is not a contradiction for the surrogate program. A woman with 1 C-section in the past can carry one healthy embryo and give birth with no problems naturally or with another C-section.
Just the fact that the woman had a C-section does not mean that she will have a C-section again, she still can deliver naturally.

But if parents want to have 2 babies, in this case, C-section is a contradiction.

Is it true that a surrogate mother who has RH- has a negative effect on the program’s success?

As a part of the medical evaluation, every surrogate mother with an RH- goes through antibody examination. And if there are antibodies she can not go to the program.

From our experience, we had RH- surrogates and none of them had any negative issues.
So we can conclude that the RH- factor is not an issue.

When is C-section normally scheduled?

It is to be decided by the doctor. It is very individual. Normally, it is on later terms.

How to build a connection with your baby while your surrogate is pregnant?

Throughout the program, you can receive images, ultrasounds, and heartbeat recordings, among other things.
We also practice potential parents recording your voice and songs so that the child can communicate with you.

Do you have experience of surrogate mothers donating breast milk during the first weeks? Do you support it?

It is a very individual question. From our practice, the child is taken from a surrogate immediately after being born. The bonding with biological parents is very important and it is a priority. So surrogate has no contact with a child. But if there is such wish of biological parents, the breast milk can be arranged individually.

How do we can trust she is caring about herself and a baby?

First of all, we are performing a lot of testing to ensure the good condition of the surrogate’s physical and mental health. If the surrogate mother shows any deviations, there are huge penalties for that.
But such cases are extremely rare from our experience.

Are vaccine records of candidates are up to date during the screening process?

The part of the examination is testing for specific antibodies. It is mandatory testing. So we are looking not at records, but at actual testing. And if she does not have some of the mandatory vaccinations, then she is required to have them. Otherwise, she will not be accepted to the program at ADONIS.

Is the surrogate mother is tested for COVID before the embryo transfer?

At ADONIS we test for COVID before the embryo transfer.

Do we test for antibodies if the surrogate mother had COVID already?

Yes, it is possible upon request of future parents.

How to communicate with your surrogate during the process?

We recommend communicating with the surrogate through ADONIS team. The reason is that in most occasions, the surrogate does not speak your language, so it is better to communicate through the coordinator to avoid miscommunications.

How to demonstrate your appreciation to your surrogate?

Even if you decide to give a symbolic present, it is already enough to show your appreciation. It is not necessary, but a kind gesture of course is very much appreciated.
For example, it can be some caring present for her children as a consideration.
But again, it is not an obligation.
If you have such a wish, you can always ask your coordinator to help with that.

What are the other important criteria while choosing the surrogate?

As future parents, the first question you must answer is whether you want one or two children. This will decide whether or not the C-section applicant is permitted.

The location is not so important, since Ukraine is a very big and long spread country, so it is not easy to have all candidates close to Kyiv. But on the 7th month of the pregnancy the surrogate moves to Kyiv to the apartment close to ADONIS.

When it comes to age, all surrogates will be in a range of best fertile periods that are perfect to carry the pregnancy and be successful.